So I was having a discussion the other night with some friends & thought I pose some of the arguments here.
I forget really how it all came up, it started as a discussion of body hair. One of my dinner-mates said that he religously gets his back sugared (a form of waxing). One of our other dinner-mates accused him of conforming to what (gay) society deems acceptable. He argued that it wasn't the case and he preferred himself smooth.
I started thinking about my own ideas regarding hair etc. I'm Irish and German, whether this is the reason I'm a hairy mo fo or not I don't know.
What I do know is that there is WAY too much hair on my body to be shaving it all the time....yes I do trim it.
There was a time from about 17 - 27 that I felt the need to shave my upper body (luckily I only have a slight tuft on my lower back), but I religously shaved my front for years. I got tired of it, not only was it a lot of work but it wasn't cute. I'm light skinned with DARK brown hair, I'd look smooth for about a half a day so i let it go and couldn't be happier.
The reason I bring this all up is I've notcied lately amongst the gays that there is a whole movement back to facial hair of all types etc etc. We were talking about guys needs to be masculine etc.
My thoughts really are: I'm a man, I like men. so I'm muscly, hairy and natural. I am also gay, so I prance around & swish my hips from time to time. Why all this extreme? I mean can't I be who I am without FURTHER labels? The dinner party tried to convince me that I'm a cub or otter or badger (God - this sounds like boyscouts) or some other sort of deep woods animal which I am not really about. There's nothing wrong with that lifestyle -i don't choose it for myself.
I am Jeremy. What I like about me is the many different things that make me who I am whether those are stregnths or weaknesses change on any given day. Stop trying to put me in a box!
A part of my Dad's spirit - is a part of mine.
9 months ago